Everybody have their way of talking, laughing, smiling, reacting and communicating. Some of us are a comfort for others. But some don’t. What is the difference between these persons? Why one person’s presence brightens the gathering another person dulls it?
Here are some thoughts that might help; Smile – a real smile. It’s a common thing that when we see somebody smiling, we feel pleased. And it will be a lot help if the smile is without any malice it is more enchanting. Keep smiling.
Listening – everybody needs to be listened, when we don’t speak but only listen, people love us. We all have our own problems and need somebody to listen. Become a good listener. Ask open ended question such as – and after that? Why? And so on. That will encourage the speaker to open their hearth out all to you.
Be funny, no, say something funny. Telling funny story is not easy, sometime when you think it’s funny in fact a funny story can be not so funny at all if you don’t tell it right. The are some ways to help telling funny story; Do some googling, find some funny materials on the net, watch comedy movie or it sit com on TV.The more they laugh, the more they will enjoy your company.
Appreciate –express your appreciation. Appreciate can make your friend feel good. You can say good comments onsomebody clothes, or shoes or whatever.
Pay less attention to our self and more to others. Make friends happy and they will love your presence. Make your presence the life of any gathering. But make sure that you also enjoy it, do it sincerely, if not, everybody could tell that you are not happy.
That’s right, your thinking matches mine – we should pay less attention to our self and more to others.